What is love? Chemistry and biology are the two factors that are focused on but are they truly the real reasons people fall in love? Chemistry and biology certainly have a huge effect on our ability to fall in love. Without chemistry we would not be able to feel that spark for that person. The pull of attraction that drags you to that person and has you thinking, dreaming, talking, and wondering what they are doing and when will you see this person next. The physical attraction to a person is what initially brings you to them and after that the chemistry will keep you smiling when you see them. Chemistry is a huge factor. But biology? What is biology? I believe that it is the cycle that we are expected to follow. The pattern outlined in the reading. Biology is the way a person pulls you in, their flirting style, and their body language. Without these two crucial steps people might never fall in love.
How do these two factors change our preconceived notions about love? Is love meant to be? Can you truly fall in love? Is marriage for everyone? Is it all about physical attraction? Is courtship and dating simply a ploy for sex? I believe that many of these notions are unrealistic. Love is not simple or easy. You can't pull the definition of love out of the air. It is not explained and it is different for every person. Love is how you view it. If that means that you never get married and your still happy then so be it. But by no means does that mean that there is only one person out there that is meant for you. The odds of finding this one perfect person are impossible and unrealistic. There are too many people and chances for happiness for anyone to be looking for that one person. How will you know that you found them? Even then you could still be searching, unhappy with what you have. By all means I am not saying settle with what you have. I'm saying that love is imperfect and difficult and that life is too short to search for the perfect person and that in reality we should be happy and life in the moment. Granted if it is meant to be then it will certainly be. Not only that but dating can be simply for sex but in reality we are all looking for our match or our mate that we try to spend the rest of our lives with in happiness through our old age.
I believe that the way we see love is greatly influenced by our culture, time, beliefs, behavior, and institutions. The way that one person sees love can be completely different than the way your best friend views it. A great portion of this is based off of our beliefs and the way that we were raised. This is a huge influence on the way we think. If you were raised in the belief that someday you will find your true love and be married and love happily ever after than this would be your basic outlook on love; but if you were raised to believe that love is just a hoax then you would see love and relationships in a whole new light. I think that our culture of America greatly influences our beliefs. In other countries marriages are arranged but here we almost frown upon it. Not only that but the way people view love and marriage is very different than the way it was viewed in the 1940s and in every decade. Love is different for every person everywhere.
Love is complex. But without that excitement and without the drive many of us would not be here today. So live life and love fully; take chances and tell everyone around you that you love them because life is too short to not take advantage of what you have and life it to the fullest. Publish your beliefs and let everyone know how you view love and why.
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